Just because you have an opinion doesn’t mean you have to share it
So something I was thinking about this morning, not for the first time, but it is a good thought I think, so I wanted to share – (holy run on sentence batman) – you don’t have to share your opinion just because you have one. I have been working on this for some time and I am so much better its ridiculous.
I think this is especially important for folks with more privileges. To not dominate, you gotta shut up and learn from others. Or leave room for them to speak up. And acknowledge that you aren’t always right, and that in tons of situations being right isn’t even important.
Folks with different experiences than you have different world views and different understandings, and those are simply incredibly valuable and yet undervalued.
A friend recently confirmed that they noticed I wasn’t speaking up about stuff they thought i would have an opinion on in a group setting recently. Its not that I don’t have an opinion, but rather that I’ve learned to not need to influence all decisions. I’ve learned to appreciate and enjoy the ride of group decisions. I’ve realized that its really nice to truly collaborate and experience things outside of my comfort zone or what I “know”.
These are just my thoughts. I wonder if other folks agree or understand what I’m trying to articulate here.
I mean this shit is obvious. But knowing and KNOWING are two very different things. I see a lot of people saying shit they will regret because they feel the need to express their opinion. I’ve done it. I think one of the lessons here is to slow your roll.
Be a self thinking individual, but do your research before coming to your own conclusions. And listening to opinions that make you uncomfortable or nervous can be part of this research. I’m not saying toe a party line of any sort, but understand you and me and everyone have been indoctrinated to a party line of this society. Our thoughts are not entirely our own.